Being in a relationship is like living in a parallel world. You have that special someone ready to embrace you in your failure as well as success. Couples who have sealed their love into marriage still need tremendous commitment, mutual respect and effort to keep the relationship fresh as always. You surely are deeply in love and would never anticipate anything going wrong but even the seemingly perfect relationships need to be nurtured from time to time to keep them alive. If you want to continue that excellent bond that you have, you will need to work on it and enhance the bond. Go on holidays, book a hotel room, plan surprises and give each other their due attention and make them feel valued. We have come up with a list of 10 things your partner won't tell you but needs that would spice up things and keep the love as a budding flower between the two of you.
1) Look at your future together
Everyone has a past and perhaps some of it may not be very pleasing. It happens that some of us had done some mistakes in past not completely ours but owing to the choices that turned out to be bad later on. We commit to failed relations and whatnot. If you are in a relationship and know all these things about your partners past, you need to absorb it and move forward. The person trusted you with these hoping you are going to confide with them so don't break that trust. Even during your petty fights never refer to the past as that will only pop negativity. Be future-oriented whenever you make your plans as it will very difficult to move forward if you are troubled by the past. You should rather be like a stable pillar who is the core of the relation.
2) Give your attention
Giving your undivided attention to your partner is a way of making your partner feel valued and loved. If you find your partner has all his focus on you when you are together, that will be a huge factor in bringing you two even closer. It is really a very busy world and both of you may have a lot on your mind related to other things such as work. However, that's no excuse for being always clouded in your thoughts and action. Make sure you take out time for your partner and make them happy. Don't just sit with your partner and be involved with either the TV or your laptop. Giving attention means talking, sharing jokes, complimenting, intimacy etc. Your actions and your attitude will convey your intent and if your partner sees ho you still long for him or her even after being so busy at work, they will definitely be please beyond words.
3) Two-way communication
Communication is key to any relationships success or failure. However, it should not be one-way traffic where only one person speaks a lot and the other keeps mum. It would be suffocating for the silent one to not be able to speak up and share their feeling which will ultimately lead to the fall of the relationship. If the other person is too shy it becomes your responsibility to engage in heartful banter with them. Ask questions and encourage them to open up. Seeing your extra efforts to cheer up your partner would only make way for love. In case of a female partner, communication is a must and that too a detailed one. One word answers should be strictly avoided. After all, this is your love with whom you are talking. Give them all the details and make them trust you. Often, several workplace-related stuff may also be solved in discussing with your partner. You should have the pact, to be honest in your communication with your partner. It will certainly be fruitful for your relationship in the long run.
4) Give them space
By now you must have known what are your partners likes and dislikes. How they react when they are upset and how they love to do their work. You have to be aware of their preferences and act accordingly. There must be some boundaries that you both should setup and make sure to never cross it. Sometimes it is better to give some time to your better half as some fences are bridged by time. All these little gestures from you would definitely have an impact and it will certainly strengthen your relation.
5) Plan something occasionally
We are all busy with our lives and once we get married, we tend to ignore the need for a break more often. We forget the responsibilities towards our better half and this weakens the bond. The best way to counter this is to schedule a day in the week or month to spend together. It may be a date or a movie night or just book a room at the luxury resort or hotel you both love. Whatever helps you relax and bring back old memories will work and spice up your life together. Don't let rigid cultural practices that bear no significance come your way. Break the shackles and allow room for your other half. Helping in office work or in doing household chores, assume equal responsibility. Sometimes, your partner won't even ask for help but you must observe them and know what would make them happy and relaxed. Such small but meaningful gestures will have a huge impact on your relationship.
6) Know when to apologize
Where there is love there is also some occasional tussle. You may not agree upon something and that can lead to small conflicts or fights. Remember to put your ego aside and look at it calmly. Even if you lose it and still get back in time to your normal and calm self, you will certainly save your relationship. These small ego clashes will ultimately wither away your relationship and the damage would be irreparable after some time. So better own up the mistakes and apologize. It does not mean you have always to take the blame on yourself to sort out the matter you have to analyze if the matter is worth the time. If you both sit and reflect there is nothing that cannot be solved. A little bit of compassion and love is all it takes to solve the biggest of disputes. You will certainly realize that arguing with the person you love is not the most desirable thing.
7) Being Intimate
All the attention, all the communication, the gratitude, giving spaces won't mean a thing until the partners express all that love with some intimacy. Grab her hand or kiss on his cheeks occasionally. All these actions make your partner feel loved and you will feel their love in their reciprocating actions. Intimacy does not only mean physical intimacy but all the activities that make your partner feel loved and pampered. Turn your home into a couple friendly hotel and love each other like you did on your honeymoon. Don't be reserved, rather be expressive.
8) Let your partner know
Couples in a relationship always do things for their better half without expecting anything in return. They assume roles and responsibilities and no matter how hard things get, they keep on doing what they do. But that doesn't mean that you should forget your partner's countless sacrifices and take them for granted. We should never get complacent and look at all their doings as their duty and we should rather acknowledge their presence and help. This type of appreciation of your partner's help and effort will reinforce your relationship for the good. Remember the anniversary, the birth dates, make your partner feel pampered. Send her a random "I Love you" text or a reminder that how beautiful her eyes are and it will be the most decorated prize for your partner. Expressing your love, thoughts and feelings to your partner is as important as the love itself. With all your sweet and lovely gestures, you will surely let your partner know how much they mean to you.
9) Plan a surprise
It gets really boring and monotonous when both the partners are busy with their schedule. To liven up things, one of you must plan a surprise date or a surprise vacation. Surprise her with the tickets to Andaman and go on a refreshing journey. You may even book her favourite hotel room and get a spa or massage there. Who doesn't love surprises? It is the necessary spice in a relationship and once in a while it really helps boost the relationship.
It won't be a herculean task to know what your partner wants. Just follow these simple 9 steps and you will find how it worked like a charm and brought you two on a whole different level of awesomeness. You can also read about the 5 Pleasant ways to surprise your live-in partner.
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